Winning Conversationg

I arrived home yesterday, worn out and ready to relax, but anxious to talk to Jon about our money situation. I walked into the living room, gave him a kiss, and asked if I could talk to him. I walked to our bedroom because his brother has been staying with us for a couple days, and I wasn't about to get into it with Jon in front of his brother, especially since it doesn't concern him.

Jon followed me to the room and we sat on the bed ready to talk. I calmly explained what I was thinking about in regards to him not following the budget and over spending. As I predicted he got a little upset. He tried using the excuse of not seeing the budget recently and not knowing where we were at. I told him that the only part of the budget I was concern about was dining out. I told him that that money was to be used for us going out together, not for him going to Wendy's by himself or me to Taco Bell by myself, it's date night money. He understood that and said that he would make more of an effort.

Overall I felt it was a productive discussion. I expressed my desire for us to stay on track and use that money for our date nights and for him to be more resourceful and make a lunch at home. He was a little upset when it was over, but he made sure I knew that he was willing to work on it and that he still loved me.

Communicating to Jon has been a little difficult sometimes, mostly because I don't get to real reason behind my feelings and frustrations, but yesterday I felt as though I had completed my mission in stating what I truly felt and what I wanted changed.

Marriage WON - Fighting - LOST.